Society has idealized relationships so much so that its as if you are not in one, you then become defective. As if being single is a curse or a disease because relationships are so much fun and rewarding! Of course, something must be wrong with you if you are not attached at the hip to someone. Yes, singleness is frowned upon.
Mostly everyone in today’s society is looking for ‘that someone’ or bitter because they haven’t found them yet. If you don’t believe me take a look at your social media websites… what is most commonly talked about? Or examine the arts: music, movies, T.V sitcoms, even literature, etc. the common theme? Relationships! Specifically, the romantic kind. Either being in one, trying to attain one, or coping with the after effects of just getting out of one, relationships have become the tune to everyday life. Our minds have become so fixated with relationships that it becomes second nature to always be with someone. Even when someone uses the word relationship it almost always has romantic connotations to it.
To be honest, I think of my singleness as a blessing because God knows I’m quite too selfish to be in a relationship right now anyway. Seriously, there are benefits to being single: I don’t have to share a bed with anyone, I don’t have to check in constantly with anyone, I can be free to travel and move around without the beautiful and precious burden of taking a family with me.
I am not belittling relationships however, as a wise man once wrote, “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven”. (Ecclesiastes 3:1).
So if I am in a season of singleness, I may as well enjoy it.